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Tuesday, May 13, 2014

Last Part of: Public school and Autism Spectrum Disorder: Does it meet the Needs?

To me, no, the public schools are not meeting Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) needs.  Many parents like I have chosen and are choosing to pull our kids out of the public school system despite the financial restraints, the belief that homeschooling causes a lack in social skills, and the assumptions that parents just have false expectations.  What has led me to ultimately believe that the schools are failing to meet, not only my children’s needs but all those with ASD, is the disturbingly low percentage rate of those with ASD receiving diplomas, the extremely poor outcome of ASD adults after public school, and my highly unacceptable personal experiences with ASD in the public school system. 
I previously mentioned that I have two ASD boys and am homeschooling the oldest one.  There are others like myself who after seeing one or more of our ASD children struggling in the public school system have chosen to quit working full time in order to pursue other options for our kids, like homeschool.  We do this despite the fact that we may have to pull a great deal more money out of our pockets than we did when our children were receiving free services in the public schools.  In order for our children to have a better learning experience and a brighter future many of us have accepted having a tighter budget.  I have found that although my budget is tighter, I do not have to pull a great deal more money out.  I have been able to find services that not only accept my medical insurance, but also provide my child with a higher quality of these services.  William, my oldest who I homeschool, is doing far better with these services then he ever did in the free services provided through the public schools.  Because of this I have found living on a lower income, worth it.  So no, to me at least, free services are not a reason to keep your struggling ASD child in the public schools. 
You do not need to go to school to learn the important social cues and appropriate behavior to succeed in life either.  There are other ways your child can interact with peers and those of all ages to learn these skills.  I personally have implemented a manners program in our homeschooling and we are involved in a group where we get together at least once a week with other homeschoolers.  We meet this group at parks, field trips, and at academic fairs; here social skills can be learned.  And there are other opportunities; my child plays daily with our local neighborhood kids, we go to the theatre together, we go shopping together, to visit friends and family, to museums…  Every interaction with another person during one of these events is an opportunity to guide, direct, and reinforce good behavior.  You do not need to go to school to gain social skills; there are social opportunities all around us.  I believe that with the right guidance ASD kids, not in a public school, can succeed socially.    
I find it rude that others believe parents, like me, just have false expectations.  I ask, Is it false expectations from parents or just low expectations from the school?  I know my child to be bright and capable of learning.  If he is not progressing in the system, should I not want change from it?  This to me is simply an excuse schools use for not meeting ASD needs.  
I believe if public schools were meeting the needs of ASD children the percent of those who graduate would be higher.  I want to remind you of a statistic I mentioned earlier, that according to Forbes magazine “about 56% of people with autism graduate from high school” (Walton).  Of all the students I know (and I admit that I only know a small fraction of those with the diagnoses) I believe them all to be capable of keeping up with their non ASD peers and earning a diploma.  I know for some it takes a lot more work than others, but with what I have researched and those I do know, I believe they all are capable of it.  I would like to remind you that I am not the only one who thinks this; on the Center for Education’s website it states that, “the majority of students with disabilities should be able to perform at grade level and graduate high school with a regular diploma” (Ulrich).  Many of those with ASD appear to be regular people who happen to have some rather unusual quirks, though these quirks are what causes them to struggle and excel in areas the average Joe would not.  ASD kids are capable of learning and they are capable of progressing academically.  Forty-four percent of ASD pupils don’t get to wear a cap and gown.  That is too high of a percentage for a group of kids who have the ability to gain the knowledge needed to earn a High school diploma.  This statistic shows me that the public schools are not meeting ASD pupils’ needs. 
                I believe in order to know whether something is working, one looks at the outcomes.  Another statistic I had mentioned previously from the top ASD advocacy organization, stated that “recent reports indicate unemployment and underemployment together hover around 90 percent for adults with autism” (Autism Speaks).  Ninety percent is a very large amount for any group of people.  As a mother of ASD children this bothers me.  As a taxpaying citizen this bothers me; who is going to care for this growing number of ASD adults to live?  These results are not satisfactory.  How is it that these kids capable of one day providing for themselves, are not?  The only answer I can come up with is that they are not being taught the skills they need to succeed prior to graduating and entering the world. 
There is a community who welcomes ASD adults who are unable to live completely on their own.  This community, Marbridge, holds trainings for their ASD individuals on life skills and job skills.  They have expressed that “At Marbridge, we believe young people with autism can become self-determining adults, capable of competing—and winning—in the competitive workplace. Time and again, they prove us right” (Marbridge).  Marbridge has shown that with the right education, these kids can flourish, holding down jobs and progressing in a career.  Yet that education isn’t happening on a nationwide level and as a result a large percent of ASD adults are not meeting their potential.  I believe the percent of those unemployed and underemployed would be much lower if the public schools were teaching these ASD kids the skills they need to make it in life as taxpaying ASD adults.  As of right now this outcome of ninety percent of adults not working or under working, shows me that the public schools are not meeting ASD needs. 
To my disappointment I have not found any statistics on the percent of ASD homeschoolers, charter school students or private school pupils who graduate.  I had wanted to show the percent of those who graduate and what these ASD adults are doing after receiving a diploma or the equivalent of one.  Although I did not find any of these statistics on ASD kids not in a public school, I did find numerous accounts on websites and forums from other parents, who like myself, have pulled their kids out of public school, and with much relief discovered that their ASD student is happier and progressing faster.  I asked on one of these ASD homeschooling forums if anyone wouldn’t mind writing me a short message for this paper about why they chose to homeschool.  I had several parents respond, all with words that reflect what I have written here.  One mother, Andrea Plante, messaged me that she “opted to homeschool because public school just doesn't offer what our kids deserve. I can change her (referring to her child with ASD) IEP till the cows come home but it will never change the system.”  Another Mother, Nicole Largy, said “I haven't pulled my son out of public school yet but I am seriously considering it. I'm fed up with our school system.”  These parents, like myself and many more out there, love our ASD children and it hurts us to see our children struggling unnecessarily.  When the schools are not meeting our children’s needs, we see no other choice, but to try an alternate route.    
My personal experiences from having two ASD children in the public schools have led me to this belief that the schools are not meeting ASD needs and have given me ideas for how they could do better.  Last year in our local public school, my oldest child William, was more days than not coming home overwhelmed and his homework would usually end in tears.  I have always been an active parent with the schools, I know the teachers and principals, and I have a good relationship with all the staff.  I attend parent teacher conferences, Individualized Education Program (IEP) meetings, and have even called meetings to be held.  I believe the staff for the most part really do care and try to offer the most they can, however the schools are just not set up in a way that can fully meet the needs of ASD students.  These kids are not learning at an appropriate pace and not moving on successfully.  The public schools I believe would have a much easier time meeting these students’ needs if they had better training for all staff on ASD and hired specific ASD classroom aids for each class with an ASD student.  These aids would need to be in addition to normal classroom aids, having someone who can work one-on-one with just the ASD children.  William, I believe, would not have come home so overwhelmed if he had had the help of an ASD classroom aid.  I do not believe the way they do it now is working, pulling children out of their main classroom to work on specific academic areas they struggle with.   My youngest, Richard, is beginning to fall behind in areas as well now and I believe it is due to pulling him out of his mainstream classroom.  An in-classroom aid would be a more fitting alternative and something I plan to bring up during his next IEP meeting.  I do understand that children need pulled out for specific therapies, like speech therapy and occupational therapy.  Though having an aid would dramatically change the amount they are taken out and meet their needs more proficiently, being able to help them in the classroom.  I believe this additional aid in the classroom will raise the number who graduate and raise the percent of ASD adult’s employed.  This in turn helps the schools to better meet ASD students’ needs. 
By writing this I hope I have shown the gaps, got you thinking, and perhaps even talking.  Whether you agree with me or not I hope you are more aware of ASD in our public school system.  If any of you have ideas that would provide a better education and brighter future for these kids, please share them.  Share these thoughts with your local public school’s principals, administrators, and teachers.  My hope is for our public schools to truly be meeting these kid’s needs.  I believe that when the public schools are meeting the needs of ASD, the graduation rates will raise, ASD adults will have an improved employment percentage, and overall the ASD experiences in the public schools will be better.  Let us keep the conversation going, no change will happen if we simply stop it here. 
(Written in May of 2014)
Works Cited
"Autism Residential Care at Marbridge." Marbridge Group Homes for Autistic Adults, Programs for Adults
with Autism Residential Care, Jobs For Autistic Adults. Marbridge, n.d. Web. 24 Apr. 2014
Largy, Nicole. Reply to group post. 23 Apr. 2014. Facebook group page “Homeschooling with Autism
Spectrum Disorders - A place to share and support”
Plante, Andrea. Message reply to post. 23 Apr. 2014. Facebook group page “Homeschooling with Autism
Spectrum Disorders - A place to share and support”
"Strengthening Support for Adults with Autism." Autism Speaks. Autism Speaks, 04 Aug. 2012. Web. 06
Apr. 2014
Walton, Alice G. "Living Life With Autism: Has Anything Really Changed?" Forbes. Forbes Magazine, 30
Nov. 2011. Web. 05 Apr. 2014.

Tuesday, February 9, 2010

SNOW!

SNOW is Fun, Cold, Dangerous, Beautiful!


Our SnowMan!
Our Snow Cave!
A Goofy pic of me about to be hit by a Snow ball! lol- I look so funny here!
Throwing a Snow Ball!- Yes, I throw like a girl!
William.. so evil here! Ah Ha Ha HA!
Richard's Broken arm! I told you Snow was Dangerous! Isn't his sling cool?!

Saturday, January 23, 2010

Sharp Tooth!!

Last Wednesday we went to the Children's museum. They have a new Robot exhibit.. but my kids weren't too interested in that.
For Christmas the kids got two Land Before Time movies from their Aunt Casey... and well, have been kinda attached to anything dino like since! So it was no surprise that they spotted all the dino stuff in the Gift shop, right away! William was so excited when he found an Egg... Just like in one of the movies... Were a Sharp Tooth is hatched from.
He held it up to me and told me he wanted a Sharp Tooth. I told him he was crazy and that it would bite his head off.. He just laughed at me. ;)
It was a surprise egg though.. It could be one of 4 different types of Dinosaurs; a Sharp Tooth, a Swimmer, a Spike tail, or a Long Neck.
I thought what the heck it will be fun hatching it. So we spent the 5 bucks and headed home.
All the way home he was talking about his Sharp Tooth...and would get so upset if you even mentioned it could be something else.. Like a Swimmer maybe... He would throw his hands up and so "oooh.. NO! a Sharp Tooth!"
Once we got home we placed the egg in some water, just like the directions said.. they also said to wait abt 72 hours for it to hatch.
So it was kind of a Surprise when it started hatching the very next morning. And well I was getting kinda worried what William would say because it looked like it wasn't going to be a Sharp Tooth. And he had definitely made up his mind, that that's, what it was.
Finally I told him how worried I was if it was a Sharp Tooth... It would EAT us!! You could tell he was getting kinda worried after that.. He left the table where it was for quite a while.. then came back and said.. in a matter of fact tone... "It's a Swimmer!"
Well it wasn't a Swimmer but I don't think he could care less.. He was so excited to see a Spike Tail!
I was just thinking..we still get attached to the things we hatched.. even when we thought they were going to be, well.. Female. lol! :) That's parenting. I love my little Boys!! :)

Sunday, December 20, 2009

Me and the Kids

I love my boys!
They may be wild at times and some what hard to control. But somehow even with all these exasperating times... I still can't help but love them! They are good kids. Kids just having fun!

William
Richard
(such a funny look on his face here..lol And that nose.. always a scar.- Hey, he's a boy! A rough tumbling boy)
We learn so much from each other.
I love my boys!
Pictures are from a Photo Shoot at Sears.

Tuesday, October 20, 2009

Update on my little Artist's work!





William will be 5 in just a couple of weeks. :-)

Annual Pumpkin Patch Field Trip

I went with Willliam on his class field trip to Sutherland Farms. Those of you who were reading my blog last year, probably remember a similar post. Last year Richard came along, he was sick this year unfortunately. So it was just me and Will.. Which had its benefits though. I was able to be much more of a help to his class. Since I didn't have a two year old to round up every little while. lol -
If any of you that live around here with kids haven't been, you need to go! The kids love it! And well their is some very tasty products to purchase! I got me some Pumpkin Patch Salsa, and Nate some yummy pancake syrup!
In the above picture we are trying to find are way out of the corn maze.
William really is a neat kid. When they were told to go pick out a Pumpkin to keep. William looked around and ran to the pumpkin that was different then all the rest.. it was yellow, well kinda gray, and a funny shape. It was rotten, (lol) he didn't know that though.. he just saw it was special! It wasn't like any of the rest. lol- I let him keep it, but later that night made sure it was disposed of.
Thank-goodness, I think he forgot what his pumpkin looked like. Because I had gotten another one that same day.. A ripe one!, that he painted a face on, helped me carve out and we baked for dinner the next day! And boy was that one yummy meal!
William and his "Special" Pumpkin.



Squashed together on the Hay Ride.


Fun Train ride for the kids. Will is in the front cart.


This is really cool! They have a playground.. and instead of dirt, rocks, wood chips, or that black rubbery stuff.. that's always around the toys..... Its real Corn!

He's so cute! And I know I am his mom and all.. but really he's a cutie!

Friday, July 31, 2009

MY KIDS!

William and Richard


This may not be the best picture of them, but I love it!

-I dono why!... I'm there MOM!

They are just sooo cute! They are always cute, even when they are naughty.. How do they do that??

Well I thought I would share with you all, what my two troublesome cuties have been up to at home this summer...



1st pic-Learning about fireworks! William having fun with Sparkler time!! Look at him go!

2nd pic- Being uh.. silly.. uh ... The two of them.. they love to do this.. Dump out all the toys, out of the big buckets, place them on their heads and then run around the house crashing into things... uh.. yeah. lol! Its hilarious.. but kinda annoying at the same time.. Did I mention.. they dumped out all the toys to do this! And they crash into things!

1st pic-Playing pretend (or learning deception). William.. lol - He's pretending to be asleep.. yeah I think I know where he learned this one. lol!


2nd pic-The usual daily whines- out of the drama king Richard!

1st pic- Learning how to dress oneself!.."I think ya got enough undies on their buddy!"


2nd pic- Keeping up the skills! Always drawing something! :) Williams Duck!- As if you didn't know what it was! :) That's our boy!
1st pic- Outside time.. Richard- King of the ugly dirt pile in our backyard! :) .. Hopefully once we get our skirting done around the trailer.. that can disappear.. as we level the yard all out!- Don't worry, he'll find something else to rule.. I'm sure of it!


2nd pic- William loving on the horse, Buddy! :)


These two happen almost daily!


Well there ya have it!